Should you play hard to get with a man?
First of all, let me just get this out of the way: I'm a guy. I've been interested in women who have played hard to get before, to varying degrees. Sometimes, it was incredibly annoying, and the woman just went way too far with it and killed my interest for her.
And other times... it was exciting, thrilling, and I became nearly obsessed.
Just like most things in my life, there is a certain balance that has to be achieved with playing hard to get. It's an art!
The point of playing hard to get is to trigger a man's curiousity, desire, and longing for you. Men love to "win" things, "figure things out", and "chase." Playing hard to get lets him do all of these things, and he'll be all about you. In theory, at least.
But there's a caveat -- if you make it too obvious that you're "playing hard to get", then it's going to backfire on you. You are no longer interesting or challenging. Now you seem annoying and perhaps even a boring prude, and since you feel the need to play so many games you may actually come across as desperate as well!
So how do you know how much is "too much?"
Tip #1: Push AND Pull! Don't Forget to Flirt!
Remember, you want to maintain a strict balance while playing hard to get with a man! While you challenge him, remember to give him the good stuff as well... you want to be hard to get, not impossible to get!
Men love to get praise from women. We love women who laugh at our jokes. The occasional touch can send us over the moon. You're going to want to apply basic flirting skills...
The idea is to have the man constnatly wondering how much you dig him. The more he wonders about you, the more he thinks about you. The more he thinks about you, the more likely he is to fall head over heels! Even if he's a single, attractive, successful man.
No man is immune to a woman who knows how to flirt and play hard to get at the same time!
Tip #2: Make Sure You're Believable!
As I mentioned earlier, if you're not believable, you are going to come off as desperate. "The Rules" (perhaps the book that popularized "playing hard to get") came out a long time ago, and by now every man woman and child knows about this strategy!
You don't want to seem like you're playing hard to get, you want to seem like you are hard to get!
Make sure your body language does not betray you. If you're projecting with your body language that you're all about him while you're pretending to be less than completely impressed, you're going to give yourself away and just seem fake.
Tip #3: Know When to Drop the Charade
The point of playing hard to get is to challenge the man, activating his natural desire to "win" you. You don't need to keep it up forever!
Remember, you want to push-pull... two steps forward, one step back, at all times. But you want to progressively push forward! Remember, the goal here is to make the man of your dreams fall for you -- don't push him away once you've already accomplished your goal!
The Bottom Line
Playing hard to get is an extremely powerful technique you can use to attract the kind of man you're looking for. When you master the craft of playing hard to get, you have an unfair advantage over other women who don't quite "get it" the way you do.
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-Paul Prince, LoveTipsforWomen.com
